This long post is for you Mr. Stranger sitting next to our table at McDonalds.
Please excuse the tone of this as I don’t know how to put it decently. I’m hesitant in posting things like this but it’s obviously bothering me.
Also, I might be invading your privacy when I took your photo and write about you, but I don’t think you care about privacy issues, anyway.
Here it goes.
Sir, I don’t know you but you made me REALLY uncomfortable tonight. I don’t know what your intentions were, maybe they were good but I just don’t see it.
I don’t know, but have you not thought that asking VERY personal questions to COMPLETE STRANGERS WHILE THEY’RE EATING isn’t a normal thing to do? Asking VERY personal questions to strangers ISN’T NORMAL, even when they are not eating, okay?
It’s not okay. PERIOD. I’m not sure about you sir, but the last time I checked, normal people don’t do that. Asking about a complete stranger’s civil status, kids, job, education, address, and everything else isn’t nice, I tell you. It’s JUST rude and disrespectful.
Who does that? Really.
I understand that in many cases, having some casual talk with strangers is okay. I believe that talking to strangers happen, basically because of two reasons: (1) to kill the time and/or (2) to know about someone/something that happens to be of the same interest/situation.
I don’t usually have a problem entertaining strangers but this is totally different. First, we are not killing time here. Second, I don’t think we have anything in common, aside from the fact that we are dining at Mcdonalds. YES, WE ARE DINING. I am obviously eating with MY kid and we’re trying to enjoy our meal together, ALONE.
Yes, we are in a public place but don’t you think I deserve some privacy with my kid?
For God’s sake, my kid and I were sharing our PERSONAL and INTIMATE time together.
You never even asked permission nor excused yourself when getting my attention. Right there and then, you just casually approached me by asking if the boy I WAS FEEDING was my younger sibling.
UHM thank you but it WASN’T flattering. Really, NO.
Honestly, it was kind of insulting. It was insulting how you just throw in that annoying question. It was insulting how you attempted to “flatter” me just so you could “start a conversation”. Sorry sir but I don’t buy it. You terribly failed at your seemingly “no bad intentions” approach.
Pardon me, I’ve been asked that question a few times by strangers and I am never offended. I get flattered, but YOU were just different. Your approach was negative. I don’t know why but I just don’t like your aura or vibe or whatever.
The moment I heard you asked that first question, I knew it was just a starter line. And oh God, I was never wrong. When I answered that he is MY KID, you then thought it was DEFINITELY OKAY to ask follow-up questions like “where’s his father?” “Are we married?” “Are we from the same school?” “How did my parents react?” “Where was I working” “Are we from this place?” and so on.
Wait, wait, wait… WAIT. Excuse me sir, please stop there.
Really? Are you serious right now???
I hope you don’t mind me asking sir, but seriously??? WOW. Where did you get that level of confidence asking complete strangers very personal questions? Seriously. Do you really want to know me and everything about my life? Seriously. Why are you asking these questions? Seriously, what do you want to find out? Seriously, have you been stalking me or something? Seriously, do you always do that to random people dining next to you?
Seriously. I. DON’T. GET. YOU. !!!!
Like really, ARE YOU SERIOUS???
If yeah, well, then I could have given you my blog link so you could read a lot about me here. LOL
Tonight, I went out with my little boy expecting a fun Saturdate for just the two of us.
Tonight, though it was just a quick and spontaneous dine out, it’s our first SOLO “Ice Cream Night” together, as I always take either both kids or just her sister alone when going out at night.
Tonight, ALL I WANTED WAS TO ENJOY OUR MEAL TOGETHER, IN PEACE.
Tonight was special for me. Special for us.
But tonight, YOU just spoiled our night.
Tonight, we had to finish our meal quickly and leave the place as soon as we’re done because of your “interrogations”.
Tonight, I almost wanted to talk to the management at Mcdonalds but I just kept my cool for my kid’s sake, who was obviously innocent of what was going on.
Tonight, I almost wanted to kill you with my eyes and say,
“SIR, THAT’S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!”
Mister, this isn’t actually the first time I was asked personal questions by strangers. Trust me, I’ve been asked a couple of times, especially about my kids. Though I already expect AND UNDERSTAND that most people are just plainly intrigued and don’t have any bad intentions, I can’t deny that it still annoys me EVERY SINGLE TIME.
Somehow, I got used to it that I just manage to smile and ignore the questions. But it gets so irritating how some people just don’t know their limits. Like YOU, sir. You were too pushy.
To you, it might not be a big deal. To you, it might just be a simple Q&A out of curiosity. But to me, IT WAS HARASSMENT.
You, sir, were already invading our privacy.
Didn’t you get it when I said, “Excuse me, mangaon sah mi ha!” Didn’t you get it that I didn’t like answering you? Didn’t you get it that you were completely intruding our private time?
I can’t believe how you kept on talking even when I already ignored you.
The way I see you, you looked just a few years younger than my father. So obviously, with all the years you’ve lived, you know many many many things more than I do. But I’m just not sure if you know things like “common courtesy, respect, and privacy”.
Have you forgotten how to say “Excuse me” when you’re trying to approach someone? Anyone.
Have you forgotten how to say “May I” if you wish to ask something?
Have you forgotten how to say “Sorry” if you seemed to disturb others?
Have you forgotten how to say “Thank you” for other’s time?
You, sir, are not a good example of my kid.
You, sir, are UNBELIEVABLE!
Just because you are older than me doesn’t give you the right to make me feel inferior and intimidated. Not even in front of my kid.
I guess YOU are a good example of who Sir Oscar Wilde was referring to when he said,
“With age comes wisdom, but sometimes age comes alone.”
OR maybe you’re asking me too many questions because you’re concerned about my kid as I look like a very young and immature mom, but you know what, I CAN HANDLE US and I KNOW WHEN TO ASK FOR HELP.
On another note.
I don’t think you, asking me questions, have anything to do with being concerned with my kid, or me, or anything. Who needs help eating???
I think you really had some agenda going on. Actually, I was curious why you were sitting there alone when in fact, you weren’t even eating, but you just asked for a service water from the waiter.
Hmmm… I wonder what you were really up to.
And oh, I almost forgot.
In between the times that you were talking to me, some people were calling you on the phone. I’m not sure if you intentional spoke louder so I could hear you that you have BIG CONNECTIONS from the government or if you were naturally loud, BUT the things I overheard involved some dirty game of politics. You mentioned about one BIG CORRUPT POLITICIAN, THE UPCOMING NATIONAL ELECTIONS, and things that seemed like VOTE-BUYING. You seemed to have BIG CONNECTIONS.
Really, Mister. ARE YOU SERIOUS???
People like YOU are one of the main reasons why our country is not progressing.
People like YOU made me lost a little bit of faith in HUMANITY.
People like YOU reminds me again that I SHOULD NOT TALK TO STRANGERS.
Seriously, I PITY YOUR FAMILY, sir.
Single Mom with a toddler sitting next to you
Wait, Am I Over Reacting?
Over to you guys.. What do you think about people like this? Have you found yourself in a similar annoying situation? I’d love to hear about how you handled them. Please share in the comments below.