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I Walked Across the Stage with the BIGGEST Smile On My Face ✔︎

More than 5 years ago, I was a happy-go-lucky college student who’d just go to school for the sake of it. I felt nothing special whatsoever about the courses I took. As a typical student, it was merely a routine to attend classes, study  for exams, do homework, work on projects, and basically just comply with what’s required to pass and move on to the next “level”. Clearly, I didn’t have goals nor have set any plans back then. In short, I never laid any thoughts about my “future”. Of course I had dreams. VERY BIG DREAMS, in fact, so big that only my imagination could contain so I just left them there. Ha!

So there I was, enjoying college life with no pressure about the future!

“Plan for your future”, they say. And I was like, Seriously?!

Uhmm, what do you mean plan? Excuse me, I’m only a college student, I’ll make plans when I retire! 😉

I remember the only exciting thing was hanging out with my friends. What makes going to school special when it’s just simply part of our lives, anyway? Everybody “must” do it.

Most of us are taught the need to follow this sort of life system order, you know – go to school, finish college, maybe pursue graduate studies, get a job, earn big, travel and enjoy a luxurious life, meet your soul mate, get married, build your family, and live happily ever after. The End.

Oh, what a sweet Disney fairy tale! Seems like a perfect life system huh. Alright, I’ll do that!

So like what most college kids did, I persevere in my studies but didn’t set a clear direction because I was merely following the perfect life “system”. I’ve already pictured myself as the beautiful Queen in a beautiful castle living happily ever after. Life’s a fairy tale, right?

Great plan!

Then my first baby came into the picture. I dropped out of school. I took a job.

Oh no, I just broke a part of my perfect life “system”.

It’s okay, I’ll fix it. I’ll work hard and once my daughter is a bit older, I’m sure I can go back to school and we can continue this “system” together and live more happily ever after.

Great plan!

Then my second baby came. I delayed returning to school. I worked more jobs. And I became a….waity for it….

..A single mom!

Oh big NOOO! I messed up my entire perfect life system!

Sweet Disney fairy tale NOT HAPPENING. 🙁

Shit! I’m such a disappointment to my parents, to my family! :'(

Crazy how funny life gets when you start taking things seriously. That moment when life throws BIG JOKES on you when your not in the mood to laugh. Ugh!

So am I really saying good bye to the perfect life system?

Good enough, my optimistic side took over and made me realize a lot of things during my most depressing moments.

Each of us go through different crazy life adventures and messed up paths. The “system” is like a map, it’s merely a good guide but it’s still up to us to decide where we want to go and how we want to get there.

GETTING BACK UP

So what do I really want then?! I asked myself.

It became clear to me soon. I don’t want a
perfect life. BUT I JUST WANT THE BEST LIFE WITH MY KIDS! The BEST in my own standards.

Right then I knew it would all depend on me so I carefully studied myself. It’s amazing how I learned so much about me that I’ve never known before. I realized how important and rewarding and magical a self-discovery journey is. From then on, all I’ve been thinking about was my family’s future, so I’ve set plans and made goals and have been slowly working on leading a better direction, motivated and inspired by my kids.

I’ve never felt more driven in my life after everything I’ve gone through! Like a magic, with a single snap, everything suddenly became so vividly clear now, I know what I want and I’ll do everything to get there.. taking one step at a time and with FOCUS!

FAST-FORWARD TODAY

Most of the things I’m doing now, I make sure would contribute positively to my dreams, no matter how little or indirect the impact is. It wasn’t easy at all. But despite the difficulties, I never gave up. 🙂

And just last March 30, I finally checked one of my goals: To walk across the stage and receive my diploma with the biggest smile on my face ✔︎ 🙂 ^_^

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dYES, I made it! Never been SO PROUD! Now, I feel a little closer to reaching my bigger dreams!

 

Big THANK YOU to my biggest inspiration and motivation, my kids! 😉

 

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Of course, with my proud parents.

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plus my super supportive family

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and my very positive circle of friends!
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Apart from the academic knowledge I learned in school, these are the most valuable lessons I’m taking with me for the rest of my life journey..

 

    • I learned to laugh more at life when it’s kidding me.

 

    • I learned to take it more earnestly in dead serious situations. 

 

    • I learned to stay stronger and work harder when going through tougher times.

 

    • I learned that there is no such thing as a perfect life “system”. Hell, no perfect life at all!

 

  • Most importantly, I learned the true meaning of  FOCUS and NEVER GIVE UP!IMG_3793

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Life is good, my friends, even if you’ve messed up some parts of your life “system”, trust that you can fix it and get back on track! YOU can do it! Oh life is so goood! 🙂

 

For more inspiration, you may listen to our graduation song, “Today My Life Begins” by Bruno Mars while watching some of our grad pics. 🙂
“YOU CAN MAKE IT, TODAY YOUR LIFE BEGINS!”

 

WHAT’S NEXT FOR ME?

Now I have to deal with post-graduation anxiety! And, quarter-life crisis,  anyone? Geeeez!

Good luck to everyone, especially those who are going through tougher times. 😉

Cheers,

 

Mommy Rose

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34 Comments

  • Reply Pam / Hey, Miss Adventures!

    Congratulations, Mommy Rose. It's the climb, not the destination, that's important they say. It took me one more year to get my Comp Engineering diploma, too, and I thought no company would ever accept me back then.

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Krisna

    Congratulations, Mommy Rose! And thank you for sharing this very inspiring story of yours. I'm sure there are lots of mommies out there who can relate to your story. Good job in pursuing your degree inspite of having two adorable kids already. Mahirap maging mommy at the same time maging student ha. Push mo yan, sis. In God's perfect time lahat ng dreams mo for you and for your kids ay matutupad. :-*

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Rose Angelie

    Thank you! Cheers for success!

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply tweenselmom

    Congratulations! That was quite a feat, juggling schooling and parenting. Here's to more success and achievements!

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Rose Angelie

    Aww thank you so much mommy Jackie! 🙂

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Rose Angelie

    Thank you mommy! Our systems are unique so we must approach them differently as well. Nothing's perfect naman talaga. Good luck on your journey too! 🙂

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Rose Angelie

    Yes, we should treat education with utmost importance. A man with education goes a long way. Kahit hindi pa formal academic education yan, as long as we're eager to learn and add more knowledge, that's something!

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Rose Angelie

    Thank you very much mommy Krisna for your kind thoughts. I'm happy to have made this piece into a true inspiration for many. 🙂

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Rose Angelie

    Thank you, yes, balance is very important. It's crucial to really set our priorities.

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Rose Angelie

    Oh there were so many things I did mismanage! There were many days I had to leave for school and work with a cluttered bedroom and a messy hair. Ugh those days were never easy! But thank God, at least those days were over. Over for now. 🙂

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Rose Angelie

    Thank you so much mommy Nica! I'm happy to know that my story, somehow, made moved many. 🙂

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Rose Angelie

    Thank you very much mommy Levy!

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Rose Angelie

    Let's always dream big, mommy! After all, it's free anyway. 🙂 Thank you so much for the kind words. 🙂

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Rose Angelie

    Yes, that's right. The struggles are the ones making the whole experience worth it! Wow, that's great to know! Thanks for sharing your story too, Pam! 🙂

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Rose Angelie

    Awww thank you very much mommy Rhoda! Your words gave me more confidence in dealing with every challenge I have to face. You too are such an inspiration! I would never knew what you've been through if I never shared my own experience. God Bless on your future endeavors as well, cheers! 😀

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Rose Angelie

    True, stand up every time we stumble and fall.. Thank you! 🙂

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Rose Angelie

    Thank you mommy! 🙂

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Amethystine (@Amethystine)

    Way to go mommy! I'm sure your family is so proud of you. 🙂

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply phenomenalmama16

    Congrats, Rose! You are a good example for your kids to follow on how to treat the challenges of life. We simply just rise up again and again. God bless your future!

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Rhoda Fajardo

    OMG! You sound just like me. I cried a little coz I'm so inspired and I'm in awe of you woman. I totally understand what you've been through. The only difference is, I got pregnant before finishing highschool and had 2 more babies during college.

    Life's not perfect and there's no 'system' to follow. If you force it, sh*t happens.

    I'm also in the self-discovery road and I see a very clear path to my goals now. Just like you, I finally have a roadmap and a plan. And I'm taking one baby step at a time til I get there.

    Congrats Mommy Rose! Have a wonderful life ahead and stay awesome! Single moms rock! Yeah! 🙂

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Ayi

    Your little girl looks so much like you 🙂 I feel proud with people who dream big and never stopped dreaming. You are such an inspiration. Congrats mommy 🙂

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Rose Angelie

    You know what, I just read the post again to see if I ever mentioned the word "mistake" coz I didn't remember writing one, and true enough, I never did! Your comment made me realize how positive I treated everything here. Sometimes, I always think I'm such a negative person haha. Sure I had mistakes, meeting the wrong people is one of them, well I consider it half a mistake, half a blessing coz if it wasn't because of them, I wouldn't have come out this strong, right? As the song goes, "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger!" haha 🙂 Thank you so much! 🙂

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Mommy Levy

    Love your story very inspiring. Congratulations for finishing college.

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply nicareyes

    Congratulations, Mommy Rose!!! Tears… I'm soooo happy for you!!! 🙂 🙂 🙂

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Shiella A. (Balot)

    taking good care of your kids and your studies at the same time is something few can manage and I'd say good job girl and congratulations 🙂
    as you have said one step at time and with FOCUS, kaya ra! 😀

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply sarah tirona

    congrats to you for seizing the moment, going for your goal and balancing everything at the same time!

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Lique Dimayuga

    Congratulations! I'm sure your kids would be proud of you too, since their mom values education 🙂 it would be a story to tell even to your future apos 😀 God bless you mommy!

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Cheanne

    Congrats congrats congrats! 🙂 It must be so tough to get your system back but you're tackling it one sure step at a time. Good for you. Good luck and God bless in all your future endeavors. 😉

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Jackie Park

    This was such an inspiring post! Thank you very much Mommy Rose, and congratulations on your graduation! You have a very beautiful family. 🙂

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply katjrod

    You are inspiring. Your parents and kids must be so proud of you. I love how you treated those challenges as just, well, challenges, and never thought that they were mistakes but just small bumps on the road, because you're still on your way to the perfect life you want, and from what I can see, you'll definitely get there.

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply jezzme

    Congratulations Mommy Rose! I'm so Happy for you. There's still a lot in store for you so just go for it girl! 🙂

    June 26, 2015 at 8:09 am
  • Reply Janine Ella

    Congratulations Mommy Rose!!! Parehas gyud ta. I got pregnant on 2012 and I only had one semester left para makagraduate. I was such a disappointment to my family and friends as well. I was so down that time. I'm just so glad that my boyfriend has never left my side. We went through the most difficult times of our lives together. After giving birth on February 2013, I applied for job and wen back to school at the same time. It was so difficult to manage my time kay sa call center ko ato nagwork. Now, thankfully na okay2x na though I know deep in my parents' hearts, naa pa gihapon ilang frustrations kay they wanted me to help sa balay but dili na nako sya kaya since I have my baby to support na. Anyway, lets just all be positive nalang gyud! Challenges ra ni!

    September 17, 2015 at 8:20 am
  • Reply Rose Angelie

    Wow didn't know your beautiful story, Janine! I know how hard it is but thankfully we've gone through it all! 🙂 And hala, sunod rata since March 2013 ko. Hehe Yeah, agree jud ko sa feeling nga frustrated gihapon ang family kay di ta katabang nila since we have our own families na and it's not really what they expected from us. But moving forward, stay positive lang jud! Gorabels.. Kita pa! ^_^ thanks for sharing!

    September 19, 2015 at 5:55 pm
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