Early this year, my kids and I moved out of my parents’ house. It was something I always wanted to do for so long but never imagined I would do it too soon, without notice.
Was I prepared for such a HUGE life-changing decision to move out, move in, and start from scratch? UHM, NO!
I did it unprepared at all. Yes, I dragged my kids to an unfamiliar road, a journey I am not sure where it is all leading us to. PLAIN CRAZY!
But did I regret having done it? NOT A SINGLE THOUGHT.
You see, it’s a scary leap to just decide to live independently away from my own family, especially away from my parents who have been there for us from the start. I’m not gonna lie, it was terrifying to be on our own. There’s always that constant fear of not knowing what’s gonna happen, of what’s ahead of us, and if I made the right decision.
But with that fear also comes fulfillment. I was scared but at the same time, I felt fulfilled.
For the most part, I felt fulfilled as a parent as it was an amazing jump to take full responsibility for my own children. To have a real experience of what it is like being a parent – to finally experience it fully! To go through the ups and downs of it all and just own it. I can’t find the right words to describe it. It’s hard to explain but it’s simply beautiful! I love all of it, even my most frustrating parenting moments.
But the fulfillment of being a parent is just one part of it. The other rewarding thing about the whole “moving out and moving in” journey is the inner fulfillment as a person. It was an amazing feeling to really take a stand for myself to do what I want and follow where my heart wanders. Despite the challenging road ahead and the clear objection of many people, I was firm to say, “The heck, I will go for what I f*ckin’ love!”
Other than that, the most special thing about this journey is that I finally got the courage to fully trust someone this time. Someone who showed genuine care, support, and selfless love. It was never an easy start for the two of us since we both had gone through a lot in our past, thus we both carried heavy baggage. But eventually, we broke each other’s walls and learned to embrace the beauty of what we have! So yeah, I am with someone special throughout this whole adventure. 🙂
Wait, what??!! I thought Mommy Wanders is a single parent?!
Well, I haven’t really shared it on the blog yet but Mommy Wanders is so damn happy with someone now! …and let’s just call him THE BOSS. 😉 (See the guy wearing red on the cover photo of my CAMOTES BUDGET TRAVEL post? You wouldn’t see his face but that’s him! Haha) Hmm, I think I’ll share more about US in the next post. 🙂
**Don’t mind me. I’ll just pretend that you guys actually care about my love life. HAHAHA**
So why did I say I was unprepared? Well, the day we moved out was just like any other day. Except it wasn’t. We left the house on an early afternoon… and guess what happened? We never came back. Without everybody’s knowledge. Not even my parents’ consent. I, myself, didn’t have any idea that it was all gonna happen just like that. (HOW DARE YOU, ROSE!!!)
I know it was crazy. It was a very emotional day that I will never forget for the rest of my life. Truth is, it was on my birthday.
Beyond crazy, right? So why did I do it? Well, that story is for another post.
Today, I wanted to share how our family life is going on that we are living on our own for over half a year now. It wasn’t easy. The transition was hard and each one of us had to go through a lot of adjustments. In a short period of 8 months, we’ve moved to two different homes.
Here’s our quick backstory…
For the first 4 months, we lived in a tiny studio-type condo unit. I have to admit, it was a hasty decision. Can you believe that I signed a contract for a PHP 1.4M condo unit purchase??!! Yep, we are talking about millions of pesos here. I processed a lot of crucial requirements and signed pages and pages of legal documents. It was a real big freakin’ deal! I swear I never dealt with anything so big and so real in my life other than signing those home ownership papers.
I thought that was the start of our sweet fairy tale – to have our own small home where our big dreams start to happen. I already imagined living our sweet life in that tiny home – like the way it happens in lovely movies, you know.
The first time I stepped into that small bare unit, I felt relieved, excited, scared, and contented. I told myself, “WOW. This is it!”
I already imagined where the kids will play, where I would set up our small living area, how I’d arrange our small bed corner, and how we would spend as weekends. I was full of ideas and it felt like the most exciting time of our life.
But it was just a short sweet stay. Some things turned sour right away. But let’s talk about that in another post as well. (Sorry to keep you hanging, folks!)
Going back to our life updates.. how is it, so far?
Today, we are staying in a one-bedroom apartment and I can say that things are getting a little better now. The past months have been a real struggle, especially with our finances, but despite that, we are able to manage. Good job, boss! 🙂
With our current challenging situation, I love how we still try to get a break and just have some fun. We get to invite some friends over, continue our movie date nights at home, go on spontaneous beach trips and even had a quick night out over the mountains.
LOOK: Meet The BOSS! He’s also the crazy guy who wrote me this letter: “I wrote something for you.” He said. ^_^
Hi Boss! OMG, you finally got featured on the blog. HAHA 🙂
Just chillin’, taking things slow, and going with life’s flow, you know.
I would say that our life this year has been a helluva rollercoaster ride. Scary, unpredictable, joyful, exciting, frustrating at times and full of tears. TOTALLY OVERWHELMING! But what’s important is we keep moving forward! 🙂
There have been a lot of unexpected twists and turns but I confess that I loved every part of this wonderful crazy journey. There are still a few bumps here and there but we remain happy and grateful. There’s just too many things to learn, problems to face, challenges to accept, mistakes I expect to make, and experiences to embrace. It’s a bittersweet journey indeed.
Would I have done it differently if I was given a chance to turn back time? Maybe YES. Some of it.
Would I still take the risk knowing how hard it would? ABSOLUTELY!
Did I regret taking the leap? HELL NO.
And that’s the truth.
Hey, there! Are you still with me? Thank you for reading up until here, I honestly appreciate it! What can you say about this part of our story? Share them in the comments below and tell me, how’s your life lately? 🙂